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Samantha

"Femininity also changed my love relationships..."

Hello,

My name is Samantha. I am 20 years old and I was born in France… I’m currently a student in psychology in order to become a sexologist. In addition to my classes, I do various jobs to support myself. And I am a raelian.

I’d like to talk to you about what femininity represents for me… I don’t perceive it as something negative, where the terms used in reference to it are pettiness, jealousy, superficiality… to name only a few… for me, femininity represents, softness, love, wisdom, purity, humility and sensuality… grace, voluptuousness, religiosity, humour, charisma, kindness, listening, compassion, forgiveness… but also harmony, serenity, beauty and refinement… femininity evokes so many images for me... and it changed my life… and I regret that we are not taught femininity and that a negative image is all that’s conveyed…

Ever since I became conscious of all these values, I perceive the environment and the people surrounding me differently. And my life changed greatly in every aspect… First of all it gave back a new sense to my life… yes, by enriching it and by allowing me to discover an even more beautiful angle… I also became aware of the importance of femininity in every aspect of my life… femininity avoids a great number of conflicts and tension… a truly humble person can’t argue and it’s true! I apply it all the time, especially during teamwork. We never experienced tensions, frustrations or reproaches…on the contrary… femininity emphasizes on being, and on relationships with others… you feel a greater link to your surroundings, to the people around you… I am intimately convinced that a world dominated by these values, would be a world where wars, conflicts, grudges, jealousies, hatred would not exist… not like in today’s world… This is one of the reasons that made me determined to work on these qualities. Buddha said: "To change the world you have to change yourself”… I’m dreaming that some day, this Earth, will become a planet of Love, consciousness, beauty, wisdom and Harmony…

Femininity also changed my love relationships…they’re even more beautiful now…Femininity allowed me to discover what to me is true love… by working on my sensuality… For example, I am more sensitive than before… a simple caress on my skin, a little languorous kiss in the neck, give me very intense pleasure sensations, making my entire body shiver with a magical emotion… now, I immensely favour the whole sensual and cuddly sides that provide me with lots of sweetness, pleasure and fulfils my desire of “big cuddles”, of closeness with my partner… to the point that I feel penetration as a plus to our love games full of sensuality and charm … the desire to have him in me is so great, my excitement is so strong, that when he penetrates slowly in me, an even more intense and deeper feeling arises in my being… and when he starts moving back and forth, it’s… it’s truly wonderful… Sometimes I don’t have an orgasm, but the emotions and the moments of sensuality, before and after are so strong that I am not at all frustrated, contrary to how I felt in my previous relationships… I feel less and less jealousy towards my partner, which doesn’t mean I don’t love him infinitely… except that now, I live our relationship with more detachment, more consciousness and by savouring intensely each moment I share with him…

I realized that the education we received during our socialization, as well as the images conveyed by the media are those of the prince and princess charming and the fairy tale… “They get married, they live happily ever after. The other one is only his half, one cannot live without her other half, faithfulness…” These images condition us in our relationships and they push us to suffer, to tear each other apart… This programming we received create the expectations we have from the other person and if they don’t fulfil these expectations, it creates an uneasiness in us and that’s how tensions appear… until I ask myself “but who am I to tell him what to do or what not to do, who he’s allowed to see or not… Sam, when you truly love someone, I think you want him his happiness… you want him to be happy right? You don’t want to smother him as it is the surest way to chase him away and you exactly know how it feels because you didn’t like it when it was done to you… “And it’s true, I don’t want someone to ever say to me: “I don’t wan you to… where were you? With whom? What did you do?…”. “No, for me, to love is to want the other person to be happy, to help him feel even happier, free… it’s not to blame someone or ask him for a report on his activities, to forbid or authorize him to do this or that but to support him in his decisions, to listen to him and not to present him with an ultimatum…

If I talked to you about all this, it is to describe the relationship I had with my ex companion. The consciousness I developed, partly thanks to femininity, by questioning myself and work on them and thanks to my philosophy… all this allowed me to step back to truly discover who I am, to review my life, and to chose how I want to build myself… It is also to talk to you about the relationship I am in today… one may believe that it’s terrible, not an enviable situation, and that I am unlucky… yet I live this relationship marvellously well and I feel truly happy… happy as I’ve never been in love, which could seem paradoxical… because I am sharing the man I am in love with, very much in love with, with another woman… I know that they’re very close and that she means a lot to him… and I might even chock you by saying that I love this woman even more because she makes him happy… and I love him so much, I wish him so much to be happy, even if it is with someone else… I could talk to you about this for hours… but I don’t wan to bore you too much with my love life… however I’d be happy to talk to you about it or to listen to you if you’d like…

And I can assure you that what I shared with you are not vain words in the infinity…

I send you lots of sweetness and all my love…

Samantha